In this week’s episode of Relatable, Colter, Cayla, and Lauren take a deep dive into Codependency—what it truly entails, what it doesn't, and how it can sometimes be mistaken for other trendy buzzwords circulating today (which we'll delve into next week, so stay tuned).

Key Discussion Points:

• Independent vs. Interdependent vs. Codependent: In relationships, independence emphasizes self-reliance and personal freedom, where one doesn’t seek validation or support from others. Interdependence reflects a healthy balance of self-sufficiency and openness to sharing needs with a partner. In contrast, codependency blurs boundaries and prioritizes others' needs over one's own, leading to a loss of self. How does one find equilibrium in meeting their own needs?
• Identity: How does our dependency on others influence our sense of worth? Do we define ourselves through external validation, or can we cultivate self-worth independently? Codependency often traces back to childhood attachment styles and how we learned to fulfill our emotional needs. Perhaps we believe our worth lies in giving endlessly, or in not receiving enough. Addiction and attachment to loved ones, including narcissists who validate our need to be needed, may also play a role (more on this next week). Is this indicative of an insecure attachment style?

This episode explores strategies for shifting relational dynamics and empowering oneself. For instance, do you find yourself apologizing excessively to gain validation? Is your desire to be liked hindering your self-care? Discovering a balance that prioritizes personal values is key.

For further resources and community support, visit CoDA.org.