On today’s episode of Relatable, we tackle the question: What is a Narcissist? Am I a Narcissist? If I have to ask this question, does that mean I am not a Narcissist? Colter, Cayla, and Lauren discuss the various categories and criteria that might indicate someone is a narcissist, where it comes from, and the strategies they may use to deceive you.

Key Discussion Points:

• The 9 Traits of Narcissism: Narcissism is often defined by a set of traits reflecting an excessive focus on oneself and a lack of empathy for others. The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5) outlines several key traits associated with narcissistic personality disorder. The theory suggests that exhibiting 5 or more of these behaviors might indicate narcissistic tendencies.
• Where Narcissism Comes From: We explore how narcissism can stem from a lack of empathy and validation during childhood. Such neglect can lead to deep-seated shame and insecurity, prompting individuals to develop narcissistic traits as a defense mechanism. Understanding these early experiences helps us grasp how childhood neglect influences adult narcissistic behavior.
• Strategies of a Narcissist: Narcissists use various tactics, including manipulation to control others, mirroring to create a false sense of trust, stonewalling and gaslighting to cast doubt, and love bombing to overwhelm their targets. We discuss how to recognize these traits, particularly in new relationships where everything might seem perfect.

This episode aims to help you navigate your personal boundaries and manage your reactions when encountering narcissistic traits in a partner or friend.

Further Resources:

• Dr. Ramini’s Podcast: "Navigating Narcissism" offers expert insights into dealing with narcissistic behavior.
• Mel Robbins Podcast Episode: Featuring Dr. Roy, titled "When You're Dealing With a Narcissist and How to Protect Yourself," provides a high-level overview of coping strategies.
• Christine Hammond’s Podcast: "Understanding Today's Narcissist" covers various aspects of narcissism and is well-regarded in the field.
• The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Uses the story of the Wizard of Oz to illustrate narcissistic behaviors and tactics in an engaging way.
• Too Good To Leave, Too Bad To Stay: A guide to deciding whether to stay in or leave a relationship, focusing on personal values and tolerance.
• Rethinking Narcissism: The Secret to Recognizing and Coping with Narcissists by Dr. Craig Malkin: Offers strategies for recognizing and managing narcissistic behavior.
• Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed by Wendy Beharry: Provides practical advice for dealing with narcissistic individuals.
• CODA Meetings: Codependency Anonymous (CODA) meetings are recommended for those dealing with codependency and narcissistic traits, offering support and community in a free, accessible format.